tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post7751359645831243418..comments2023-04-04T08:49:18.483-04:00Comments on Holy Mackerel: It's My TurnMary@Holy Mackerelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04026873878364041551noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-52680900055101280842009-05-12T22:49:00.000-04:002009-05-12T22:49:00.000-04:00Can I just say what sound advice that was. My sis...Can I just say what sound advice that was. My sister passed away one year ago at the end of May from alcoholism and I struggled with that relationship my whole life. I have been feeling sad about not taking her last phone calls, or not reading letters I've had in my drawer for the pain it's going to bring up. I also lost my Mother when I was 14. It wasn't ideal but I was still young enough toLynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05265256521255615494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-20333356337243628122009-05-12T22:24:00.000-04:002009-05-12T22:24:00.000-04:00I know just the thing to cheer you up. I will come...I know just the thing to cheer you up. I will come over and sing 'Muskrat Love' to you.<br /><br />xoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-84911593249283159372009-05-12T22:06:00.000-04:002009-05-12T22:06:00.000-04:00I'm sorry you are hurting so. I'm glad you had a s...I'm sorry you are hurting so. I'm glad you had a safe place to share this. You are NOT worthless or dirt or whatever that comment was. Being a mom is the hardest job on this earth. 14 year olds can be evil. I probably told my mother I hoped she died a million times. It's my worst nightmare at my age! She'll come around. In fact if she's talking to you that way you're probably doing it right!<br /A New Yorkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11997572457756451648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-73789649978475889162009-05-12T19:12:00.000-04:002009-05-12T19:12:00.000-04:00ugh. this is such a difficult post to read. after ...ugh. this is such a difficult post to read. after yet another showdown (2 actually) with my mother last weekend, i have been toying with the idea of ending any kind of relationship with her whatsoever. it's so complicated, and it is clear that i won't get the "meeting me 1/2 way" that i would like, but am i really in a position to demand that of a 70 year old woman? but why the hell can't i? <br Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07896271627723253157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-25493560853654910262009-05-12T18:45:00.000-04:002009-05-12T18:45:00.000-04:00Mary, it is as if I wrote those words. I know some...Mary, it is as if I wrote those words. I know sometimes we wonder if we will get through it and somehow we do. My grown children hate me. I have dealt with the guilt as good as I could but even with my growth and knowledge the guilt never goes away. Was I a good mother? Probably not the best but not the worst either. I wish the book that comes with a childs birth had not been lost with mine.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13178737973585191754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-48749468379200980292009-05-12T15:27:00.000-04:002009-05-12T15:27:00.000-04:00Aw *hugs*.
I think we all know what it's like wit...Aw *hugs*.<br /><br />I think we all know what it's like with difficult family. And it sounds like you're working through it.Lucy Filethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06101962728153916202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-13272746759582841792009-05-12T15:00:00.000-04:002009-05-12T15:00:00.000-04:00I am sorry, Mary.
Sending hugs your way.
xixI am sorry, Mary. <br /><br />Sending hugs your way.<br /><br />xixCountry Mouse, City Mousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11549579351659690784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-78334098857110061242009-05-12T14:08:00.000-04:002009-05-12T14:08:00.000-04:00Expectations and holidays are a time bomb, waiting...Expectations and holidays are a time bomb, waiting to explode. My Mother's Day sucked. Period. But, I'm moving on just as soon as these damn clouds clear!Tuesday Taylorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07475567792744675719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-16520901427317065862009-05-12T13:57:00.000-04:002009-05-12T13:57:00.000-04:00It's OK to feel. Acknowledge the feelings then mov...It's OK to feel. Acknowledge the feelings then move on. Good Luck with your daughter. I remember myself at 14 and it wasn't pretty. I was not very nice to my mom.<br /><br />Take care!ReformingGeekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17990465686765948682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-45063738923745702882009-05-12T13:18:00.000-04:002009-05-12T13:18:00.000-04:00You have a very wise sister-in-law. This is also ...You have a very wise sister-in-law. This is also an opportunity to create the relationship with your daughter that you never had with your mother. I had a horrible relationship with my mother until I finished high school. I cringe when I think of the things I said to her. But once I finished high school and started post-secondary and worked, somehow it all changed. And we became good friends.Crazy Mohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04854860776987204779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-65705828532102919292009-05-12T11:27:00.000-04:002009-05-12T11:27:00.000-04:00Having had a toxic parent I used to believe that a...Having had a toxic parent I used to believe that all other families were like the Brady Bunch. As I got older I discovered that many shared my difficult upbringing. I am not sure that this made things better but it did make me realize that as an adult I now shaped my own life and could put the unfortunate things that happened to me when I was small behind me. <br /><br />I hope this next year Sultanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06506141014376919585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-57658699508066585512009-05-12T11:00:00.000-04:002009-05-12T11:00:00.000-04:00Hugs, Mary. Relationships with parents and childre...Hugs, Mary. Relationships with parents and children can be volatile. Connections are so powerful, that its probably inevitable. <br />Teens are hard on anybody, especially on themselves. It too shall pass.Snapping Blabbernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-29761358446466144622009-05-12T10:22:00.000-04:002009-05-12T10:22:00.000-04:00It sounds like you are getting stronger already! Y...It sounds like you are getting stronger already! You have a very smart SIL! She said just what you needed to hear.<br />Don't worry about your "angst-y" daughter....this stage will pass. My middle daughter, Jess, went through 1 day of angst with me (several days with someone else), but it passed. You're a great Mom, don't ever think otherwise. 14 really is a difficult age (roy/elisabeth deanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15704010030427386711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-59967245532952489222009-05-12T10:11:00.000-04:002009-05-12T10:11:00.000-04:00oh honey. i'm so sorry you're so sad! i have to ...oh honey. i'm so sorry you're so sad! i have to say, i relate to how you are feeling as a mother and to where you are in your life. i'm right there with you, to the point of depression.<br />your sil...her advice...incredible. and i hope that you can use it and find some peace.<br />xomelissahttp://www.rockanddrool.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-40294305985670341612009-05-12T08:33:00.000-04:002009-05-12T08:33:00.000-04:00A wonderful, honest and transparent muse, Mary. Yo...A wonderful, honest and transparent muse, Mary. Your sister-in-law's wise words are a blessing indeed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-21596736733798964562009-05-12T08:19:00.000-04:002009-05-12T08:19:00.000-04:00Oh Mary. The sadness your feeling sounds like a ti...Oh Mary. The sadness your feeling sounds like a tidal wave that can pull you under if you let it.<br />I hope you can take some of that very wise advice from you SIL and put it to use.<br />{{HUGS}}Debzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06782022114303206069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-84378963963096145562009-05-12T07:58:00.000-04:002009-05-12T07:58:00.000-04:00Agree with MO that the younger sister gave very wi...Agree with MO that the younger sister gave very wise advice and perhaps offers some hope for future Mother's Day celebrations if you choose that route.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16813508472498593787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-10633982084250814652009-05-12T07:40:00.000-04:002009-05-12T07:40:00.000-04:00That's wise advice. From my own experience with v...That's wise advice. From my own experience with very difficult family we've learnt we have to set boundaries and take control.mo.stoneskinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10737422581378328590noreply@blogger.com