tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post140593846840668429..comments2023-04-04T08:49:18.483-04:00Comments on Holy Mackerel: MamaMary@Holy Mackerelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04026873878364041551noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-48331726262464692612009-03-29T17:48:00.000-04:002009-03-29T17:48:00.000-04:00Mary, my heartfelt thoughts with you during this t...Mary, my heartfelt thoughts with you during this time of loss. I've been where you are, so know that you're not alone. The best piece of advice I've ever received is "never let anyone tell you how to grieve". Didn't understand it at the time, but fully appreciate it now. The myriad of emotions subside, but the memories and connection never fade. You and your fam are in my prayers. Hugs!♥ CG ♥https://www.blogger.com/profile/06312573343401136201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-7919158752163479272009-03-25T09:19:00.000-04:002009-03-25T09:19:00.000-04:00I'm sorry about your mom.I'd been estranged from m...I'm sorry about your mom.<BR/><BR/>I'd been estranged from my mother for about ten years before she died in 2006. She wasn't a good mother and let some horrible things happen that could have been avoided ... but took no responsibility.Teena in Torontohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14875608173791872449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-75509335022590581562009-03-22T16:25:00.000-04:002009-03-22T16:25:00.000-04:00Oh, I haven't stopped by in a few days.I'm so sorr...Oh, I haven't stopped by in a few days.<BR/><BR/>I'm so sorry for your loss. It's never easy, no matter the circumstance, age, or relationship.<BR/><BR/>Be good to yourself.kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15742602790112005494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-2314135155428423032009-03-22T01:39:00.000-04:002009-03-22T01:39:00.000-04:00You have an award waiting for you, when you feel u...You have an award waiting for you, when you feel up to it.<BR/><BR/>http://www.psychpatientmd.com/2009/03/lemonade-award.htmlEva J. Mahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15731598888202857300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-53735837475411835962009-03-22T01:04:00.000-04:002009-03-22T01:04:00.000-04:00I am so sorry for your loss. I kinda know what you...I am so sorry for your loss. I kinda know what you're going through. <BR/><BR/>It's been 7 years since I lost my mom, and I still can't read your post all the way through for fear of the pain returning.<BR/><BR/>Peace.Eva J. Mahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15731598888202857300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-62305069662047089062009-03-21T18:18:00.000-04:002009-03-21T18:18:00.000-04:00Too much to say but I understand, oh yes, I unders...Too much to say but I understand, oh yes, I understand...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-91535968730464046122009-03-21T06:45:00.000-04:002009-03-21T06:45:00.000-04:00oh no mary i am so sorry to hear that. i hope you ...oh no mary i am so sorry to hear that. <BR/><BR/>i hope you are as ok as you can be. take it easy for a while xTinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17563154621614376842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-86127715291080661962009-03-21T00:15:00.000-04:002009-03-21T00:15:00.000-04:00So sorry for the loss of your mother - both the ph...So sorry for the loss of your mother - both the physical loss, and the missing of a mom over your lifetime. <BR/>My dad was much the same way. He died alone. It's hard either way.Vichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08714719295648072474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-11843985765773292302009-03-20T22:07:00.000-04:002009-03-20T22:07:00.000-04:00"Something must have happened to her at some point..."Something must have happened to her at some point in her younger years..."<BR/><BR/>Perhaps that is where you might find comfort for yourself in the time ahead. I'm so sorry.Midlife Roadtripperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06700277803842883251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-86312955171689562932009-03-20T11:13:00.000-04:002009-03-20T11:13:00.000-04:00Mary I am so sorry to hear about the death of your...Mary I am so sorry to hear about the death of your mother. No matter what one's relationship with their parents is, seems hard when they pass on. My sympathies to you and your family ma'am. <BR/><BR/>Lynn makes a great and wonderful point, that we cannot and mustn't let our parents define who we are and how we live. They raised us, when we are adults, they have (or should have) done their jobAnnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00662332566465788406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-20818134985877242432009-03-20T00:50:00.000-04:002009-03-20T00:50:00.000-04:00mary. i don't have anything else to say to you but...mary. i don't have anything else to say to you but that i am sorry. so very sorry for your loss. sorry that your mother was not the mom you needed or deserved. although you felt funny being next to her in the hospital, although you had such a challenging mom daughter relationship, you will still mourn her loss but maybe in a different way. take care.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-18198959174926851912009-03-19T22:44:00.000-04:002009-03-19T22:44:00.000-04:00Sending hugs your way...Sending hugs your way...Country Mouse, City Mousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11549579351659690784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-58169275344868537332009-03-19T21:47:00.000-04:002009-03-19T21:47:00.000-04:00Don't try to rationalize something that can't be r...Don't try to rationalize something that can't be rationalized. Be at peace with yourself, and know that you are living your life right, and being the best mom you can be. Write a letter to your mom and get out everything you ever wanted to say to her, don't hold anything back. That emotional release will help your healing process begin.<BR/><BR/>((hugs))Shellihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07232367835860482431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-37829357309401314872009-03-19T19:14:00.000-04:002009-03-19T19:14:00.000-04:00I'm so sorry you're having to process the death of...I'm so sorry you're having to process the death of two dreams.. one of your mother, and one of your hopes. You did what you had to do, as painful as it was, maybe now you can come to terms with it.. She may have loved you as much as she was able.. that just wasn't much.<BR/>hugs,<BR/>JeanJeankflhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13830433635650943988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-16997917878824674022009-03-19T15:48:00.000-04:002009-03-19T15:48:00.000-04:00I am sorry that your mother died. I am sorry that...I am sorry that your mother died. I am sorry that she never was the mother you needed. I am glad you have learned to mother yourself and your daughter. There is nothing strange about standing up for your own child in a way you couldn't stand up for yourself. That's what a mother does. Or should do.<BR/>My mother died about two years ago. As strange as it sounds, our relationship is still Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06095554727537194370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-61154199328703515252009-03-19T15:29:00.000-04:002009-03-19T15:29:00.000-04:00You're an awesome Mom, Mary, to be able to walk aw...You're an awesome Mom, Mary, to be able to walk away from all of that and protect Em from what you had to endure. <BR/><BR/>Don't cry for what never was but rejoice in what is....your relationship with your daughter.<BR/><BR/>Hugs and happy thoughts.Cathy Winsbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12976326964004399084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-50782696736671237872009-03-19T14:00:00.000-04:002009-03-19T14:00:00.000-04:00Aw Mary, I'm sorry for your loss right now as ...Aw Mary, I'm sorry for your loss right now as well as your loss for many years. <BR/>I'll just pray for Peace for you...I don't know what else to say.<BR/>♥,lillyroy/elisabeth deanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15704010030427386711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-66717980058936540982009-03-19T13:25:00.000-04:002009-03-19T13:25:00.000-04:00Hugs! I hope you will be able to find a way to wo...Hugs! I hope you will be able to find a way to work through your feelings about your mother. I am sorry for your loss.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-31516751452911718512009-03-19T13:04:00.000-04:002009-03-19T13:04:00.000-04:00i am sorry for your loss and confusion. *hugs*i am sorry for your loss and confusion. *hugs*~*Jobthingy*~https://www.blogger.com/profile/12158643612577538800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-34358984606824852592009-03-19T12:35:00.000-04:002009-03-19T12:35:00.000-04:00I'm so sorry for you loss. All of them.I'm so sorry for you loss. All of them.Miss Thystlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01980292649883712855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-68423356611646257732009-03-19T12:26:00.000-04:002009-03-19T12:26:00.000-04:00Mary,First of all a big {hug} to you GF.I'm sorry ...Mary,<BR/><BR/>First of all a big {hug} to you GF.<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry for the loss of your Mother, not just because she passed on...but because emotionally she had passed on from you a long, long time ago.<BR/><BR/>Many {hugs} to you from me!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-82274363154695626802009-03-19T11:51:00.000-04:002009-03-19T11:51:00.000-04:00I know exactly how you feel. I too have mother iss...I know exactly how you feel. I too have mother issues. <BR/><BR/>It doesn't make it any easier thought. Be strong. <BR/>Take care and big hugs.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16546785350999393723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-68531713821037375162009-03-19T11:41:00.000-04:002009-03-19T11:41:00.000-04:00I'm so very sorry. If you ever want to talk, I'm m...I'm so very sorry. If you ever want to talk, I'm more than willing to listen.Stephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14869966273313625550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-40953058983228224212009-03-19T10:54:00.000-04:002009-03-19T10:54:00.000-04:00I am so sorry for you! I hope you begin to heal a...I am so sorry for you! <BR/><BR/>I hope you begin to heal and make peace.Tenakimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08297336965363813911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831868659745521950.post-20302203454289931762009-03-19T10:30:00.000-04:002009-03-19T10:30:00.000-04:00Mary,I am so sorry. I know you already had to say...Mary,<BR/><BR/>I am so sorry. I know you already had to say goodbye once and now you are having to say goodbye to a dream. I think this one may be a bit harder.<BR/><BR/>I am thinking of you!Bobby's Dreamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07963573682757019132noreply@blogger.com